What Has Parenthood Given You? September 27, 2010Posted by Just a typical dad in general stuff.
Tags: baby, birth, debt, growing up, mature, parenthood, parenting, responsibility, worries
Now I know the obvious question to the title is a baby but anyone with children will agree that it is a lot more than that!
When me and Emma where expecting Oli we had all of these expectations of what parenthood would be like and we often joked about the sleepless nights saying “it can’t be that hard” (well that was mostly me)
But its only once your child is born that you begin to realise that the life you knew yesterday doesn’t really matter anymore, because now you have an extra life to take care of and its only when you realise this that everything becomes real!
Now onto the reason behind this post, as I said at the start parenthood gives you a lot of things like the instant worry for this child that has only been alive for a day!
Another thing that a lot of parents get from parenthood is debt worries. This happened to me when I brought my first tub of powered milk and my first pack of nappy’s I think that bill alone came to over £20! Because I had been used to buying food for emma and me just as and when we needed it, it was a total shock to the system knowing that I would have to make sure there was plenty of food in for Oli when he is growing up!
But with Debt worries comes financial control now I wont lie this took me a good couple of months to take control of but when you realise that you need to space out your money and not spend it on things you don’t need you become in control and this is something that I have never been (as seen in an earlier post about debt).
Now I realise that sounds very negative and I wont lie there are a few more like the sleepless nights (that really shouldnt be joked about!) and also the tantrums etc but with every cloud…..
I think the greatest thing that parenthood has given me is maturity and a greater sense of responsibility. Before I Oli was born I was your just your typical 20-year-old I liked to go out drinking whenever I could, I would spend large amounts of money on things I didn’t need and well I was quite immature.
Since Oli was born that has all changed, I now save money where ever possible, I go out drinking every so often but nowhere near how much I used to, and my oh my havent I matured! It was only the other day that I was in a meeting with both my manager and the MD of the company talking about progress and they both commented how I would go far because i was very mature for my age.
Not many people have ever said this about me before and it was actually quite touching! it sent me away thinking “wow professional management think im mature!”
It has made me realise that with this new-found maturity I can progress through life well and it can lead onto a whole load of new and exciting things!
On a final note I suppose I should say that Parenthood also gave me this blog as before I had never really thought about creating one! and after Oli was born Both myself and Emma created one to share our lives with the rest of you!
So there you have it the most important thing that i got from parenthood ( so far) is maturity & responsiblity.
What did you get?